CONSIDERING SOLO MOTHERHOOD
Not sure if solo motherhood is right for you?
You don't need to have decided anything yet. In fact, that's exactly who this is for.
Maybe the idea keeps coming back, and then you talk yourself out of it again. You’ve looked at fertility clinics or sperm donors, wondered whether you could afford it, imagined your life with a baby and then panicked about all the things that could go wrong.
Maybe you’re wondering whether you genuinely want to do this, or whether time is making the decision feel more urgent than you’d like.
Considering Solo Motherhood is here to help you properly explore the decision — with the information, practical tools and support you need, without anyone assuming what your answer should be.
You might decide yes.
You might decide not yet.
You might decide no.
What matters is that the decision becomes yours, rather than something made for you by fear, your relationship status, or another year passing.
Founding Guided Beta
10 weeks | November 2026 – January 2027
A$297
Future Guided cohorts A$599.
Prefer to work through it privately? See the On-Demand option ↓
If this keeps coming back into your head, there’s probably a reason.
There isn’t one type of woman who starts considering solo motherhood.
You might be dating and wondering how much longer you want to wait for a relationship to become the way you imagined you’d have children.
You might have come out of a relationship and realised you don’t want your chances of motherhood tied to when — or whether — you meet somebody else.
You might be happily single and have realised that a partner was never actually the thing you were waiting for. Motherhood was.
Or you might be somewhere in the middle thinking: I honestly don’t know. That’s why I’m here.
And then come all the other questions.
Could I really do this on my own?
Can I afford it?
Am I too old to spend another year thinking about it?
Would my child be okay?
How do donors actually work?
What happens if I need IVF?
Who would support me?
What happens to dating afterwards?
Am I giving up on finding a partner too soon?
And maybe the hardest one of all: What if I make the wrong decision?
You do not need to know the answers before you start.
You just need somewhere to properly work through the questions.
You need good information. You just shouldn’t have to piece it all together by yourself.
You absolutely should understand fertility, donor conception, treatment options, finances, support and what this decision might mean for your future child.
Those things matter.
The problem is that most women are trying to collect all of that information from a dozen different places — fertility clinic websites, Facebook groups, podcasts, donor banks, Google searches and other people’s opinions — while simultaneously trying to work out how they actually feel about it all.
You can understand the difference between IUI and IVF and still not know whether you want to try either.
You can compare donor profiles and still be unsure what donor conception might mean for your future child.
You can calculate childcare costs and still wonder whether you could cope with being the only parent at home.
You need reliable information. But you also need somewhere to make sense of what that information means for you.
That’s what Considering Solo Motherhood brings together.
There isn’t one “right” ending to this course.
I want to be really clear about that.
I love being a solo mum. I think it can be an incredible way to create a family.
I also know it isn’t right for every woman, and I would never want somebody to make this decision because she felt pushed by me, a fertility clinic, her age or anybody else.
At the end, your answer might be:
YES
I understand what I’m choosing and I’m ready to start taking the next steps.
NOT YET
I’m not ready now, but I know what is stopping me, what I want to do next and when I’m going to revisit the decision.
NO
I’ve explored this properly and I know this isn’t the path I want.
All three count.
What I don’t want is for another year to pass simply because the whole question felt too big to begin.
This is much more than a quick introduction to solo motherhood.
When I recently went back through everything that is now inside Considering Solo Motherhood, I had two reactions.
The first was: Bloody hell, this is actually a really comprehensive course.
And then I thought: No wonder it can feel like a lot to work through by yourself.
There are eight full modules covering the decision itself, donor options, donor conception and the future child, fertility and timing, treatment and clinics, practical planning, support networks, finances, and finally bringing all of it together to work out what you want to do next.
There are also workbooks, reflection exercises, planning tools and additional resources throughout.
The information is already there.
The new Guided version is about making it easier to actually use it.
Everything you need to explore the decision properly
You do not have to watch every lesson because it exists.
Some parts will be immediately relevant to you. Others may become useful later. Some may never apply to your particular path.
The important thing is that you have the information there when you need it.
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We start with the part that matters most — you.
What solo motherhood by choice actually means, why more women are choosing it, the fears that come up again and again, what might be on the other side of saying yes and what you can start doing even if you’re still unsure.
You’ll also work through reflection exercises around your own why, your inner voice and what life could look like if this actually works out.
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Known donor. Recruited donor. Clinic-recruited or ID-release donor. Anonymous donation where it still exists. Egg donation. Embryo donation.
We go through what those options actually mean and how they differ, so donor choice becomes something you understand rather than another enormous internet rabbit hole.
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This is one of the most important parts of the course.
Getting pregnant is only the beginning of donor conception.
We look at how and when to talk to children about their conception, the language you use around their story, the possible role of the donor, donor siblings, questions from other people and how you create an open and healthy family narrative.
Because the future adult you may be creating deserves to be part of the decision you’re making now.
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Your menstrual cycle, ovulation, age and fertility, fertility testing, egg quality versus egg quantity, conditions that can affect fertility and what options may exist if using your own eggs isn’t straightforward.
This isn’t about frightening you into rushing.
It is about understanding whether there are things worth finding out while you are still deciding.
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This is the largest reference module in the course.
It covers at-home insemination, IUI, IVF and ICSI, treatment comparisons and costs, genetic testing and IVF add-ons, choosing a fertility clinic, what to expect at your first appointment, what happens if treatment isn’t working and the emotional side of fertility treatment and the two-week wait.
You probably won’t need every lesson immediately.
It’s there so you don’t have to start from zero later.
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What do you actually want your family life to look and feel like?
What needs to be true for solo motherhood to feel workable for you?
This module brings together your family vision and values, practical realities, emotional readiness, planning and what happens when life doesn’t follow the neat version you imagined.
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Being the only parent in your home does not mean you need to parent without support.
We look at the different kinds of support you may need, the fears many of us have around asking for help, your Circle of Safety, your wider village, professional support and how to begin intentionally building the people around your future family.
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This is where everything comes together.
Readiness. Needing more time. Finances. Doubts. Decision-making tools. What happens next.
Not: Have I eliminated every fear?
But: Do I understand myself and this path well enough to know my next move?
Already know you want the guided support?
You can join the Founding Beta for the same price as the On-Demand course.
A$297 | Future Guided price A$599
And it isn’t just hours of me talking at you.
There are practical workbooks and exercises throughout the course because at some point all the thoughts bouncing around in your head need somewhere to go.
Depending on what you’re working through, you’ll have access to resources including the Reflection Journal Prompts, Ideal Average Day Workbook, Guided Dreaming Exercise, Family Vision and Values work, Circle of Safety, Village Mapping, My Village Plan, financial considerations and decision-making exercises.
You do not have to complete every worksheet because it exists.
Use the ones that help you answer your questions.
You’ll also hear from people whose perspective matters.
One of the advantages of spending years making No Need for Prince Charming is that I already have conversations sitting in the podcast library with people I would want you to hear from while you’re making this decision.
So rather than handing you another enormous podcast list and saying “good luck”, I’ll pull the most useful conversations into the program when they’re relevant.
That includes fertility specialists, a donor-conception counsellor, donor-program experts and donor-conceived adults.
The donor-conceived adult conversations are particularly important to me.
If we are intentionally considering creating a donor-conceived person, then what donor-conceived adults want prospective parents to understand should be part of the conversation before we choose a donor or begin treatment.
Choose how you want to do it
CONSIDERING SOLO MOTHERHOOD — ON DEMAND
Want to work through it privately?
If you want all the information and tools but prefer to work through the decision by yourself, in your own time, On Demand gives you the complete course without the live cohort experience.
You’ll get the full eight-module course, all workbooks, exercises and supporting resources, curated expert content and lifetime access so you can move through it at your own pace and come back whenever you need to.
Want more structure, support and women beside you? See Guided →
FOUNDING BETA
CONSIDERING SOLO MOTHERHOOD — GUIDED
Don’t want to work this out completely on your own?
Guided includes everything in On Demand, plus a 10-week supported experience to help you actually work through what you’re learning instead of simply collecting more information.
Everything in On Demand
You get the complete eight-module course, all workbooks, exercises and supporting resources, curated expert content and lifetime access.
Plus Guided support
You’ll also get:
a clear 10-week roadmap showing you what to focus on and when
four live facilitated group sessions with me
recordings if you can’t attend live
the ability to submit questions before each call
a private WhatsApp group with your cohort for the full 10 weeks
regular support and prompts from me inside the group
women at exactly the same stage — still considering, not already halfway through treatment
a final YES / NOT YET / NO next-step plan
the option for your cohort to keep the WhatsApp group going after I hand it over and leave at the end.
Standard Guided price from February - A$599
Founding Beta - A$297
Ten weeks. Four calls. Plenty of space to actually think.
You do not have 10 weeks of homework.
There is a lot inside the course because every woman’s situation is different.
The purpose of Guided is to help you know what matters now, rather than leaving you alone with a huge content library wondering where to begin.
Call 1: Where are you starting from?
Wednesday 11 November
We meet the cohort, talk about what has brought each of you here and identify what you most want to work through over the 10 weeks.
Call 2: What do you actually want?
Wednesday 25 November
By now you’ll have started looking at your values, fears, grief, expectations and the version of family life you once imagined.
This call gives us space to talk through what that has brought up.
Call 3: Working through the realities
Wednesday 9 December
Fertility, timing, treatment, donors, donor conception, money, support and the future child.
This is often where the questions get bigger before they start coming together.
Call 4: What happens next?
Wednesday 20 January
At the final session we bring all the pieces together.
You do not need to arrive with a dramatic announcement.
You leave with a YES, NOT YET or NO next step and a clearer idea of what you’re doing from here.
And yes, there is a longer gap over Christmas. That’s deliberate.
For a lot of women considering solo motherhood, Christmas and New Year can bring the whole question much closer to the surface.
Another year ending.
Family gatherings.
Questions about relationships and children.
Seeing other people’s families.
Thinking about what you want your own life to look like next Christmas.
So after our 9 December call, there is deliberately more space before the final January session.
You’ll still have the course and WhatsApp group there, and I’ll post guided check-ins along the way, but I am not expecting you to spend Christmas doing homework.
The idea is to give you space to notice what comes up, sit with what you’ve learned and come back in January ready to work out what happens next.
Can’t make every live call?
That’s completely fine.
All four sessions are recorded, and you can submit questions beforehand.
I’d love you there live when you can make it because hearing the other women’s questions is part of the value, but you do not need to attend every session to get the full benefit of the program.
I think this may be the part that changes the experience most.
There is something very different about thinking: Surely I’m the only person worrying about this…
and then hearing three other women say: Nope. Me too.
Your private WhatsApp group is only for women in your cohort.
Women who are still considering it.
Still questioning it.
Still wondering whether they are brave enough, ready enough, financially secure enough or completely mad for even thinking about it.
You can ask questions.
You can share something that came up from a lesson.
You can tell us about the fertility appointment you finally booked.
You can say absolutely nothing and quietly read until you feel ready.
I’ll be in the group throughout the 10 weeks, checking in regularly, answering questions and helping keep the conversation moving.
And when the program ends, I’ll hand the group over to the cohort and leave.
If you’ve found women you want to stay connected with, you don’t lose them because the course finished.
That group becomes yours.
Illustrative example of the kinds of conversations that often come up in Considering Solo Motherhood.
“This course was incredible. As someone considering solo motherhood, I found that it provided all the necessary information to start the process and many aspects I had yet to consider. The small group setting was perfect for sharing ideas and opinions. Alisha was an excellent facilitator, and I am excited to continue this journey with her guidance.”
I’ve sat where you’re sitting.
I spent years trying to become a mum in the version of life I thought I was supposed to have.
Then that life fell apart.
When I started seriously considering solo motherhood, I wasn’t sitting there feeling fearless, empowered and completely certain.
I was wondering whether I was giving up on meeting someone, whether I could afford it, whether a child would be okay growing up with me as their only parent, and whether I was choosing something wonderful or simply making a decision because time was running out.
I eventually decided at 38 that I wasn’t prepared to let being single make the motherhood decision for me. I became a mum just before turning 40.
Since then I’ve spent years speaking with other solo mums, fertility specialists, donor-conception professionals, donors and donor-conceived adults, writing books for families like ours and building the support I wish had existed while I was trying to work all of this out.
I’ll tell you what I love about solo motherhood. I’ll also tell you what’s hard.
You don’t need somebody selling you a dream. You need enough information and honesty to decide whether you want this life.
Whatever you decide, there is a next step.
If it’s Yes
The questions change from: Should I do this?
to: Okay. How do I actually start?
You’ll be shown the next support available for trying to conceive, including The Bump and the relevant fertility and donor resources.
If it’s Not Yet
You’ll leave with a plan around what needs to happen before you revisit the decision and when you’re going to look at it again.
Not vague “maybe someday”.
A real next step.
If it’s No
We stop trying to sell you a course about becoming a solo mum.
Because that’s what respecting your decision actually looks like.
Join the first Guided cohort for the price of On Demand.
From February 2027, there will be two ways to take Considering Solo Motherhood.
On Demand will be A$297.
Guided will be A$599.
But this is the first time I’m running the new 10-week Guided format, and I want enough women in the founding cohort to properly test what works.
So for the November founding beta:
You get Guided for A$297.
The same price as On Demand.
You’ll receive the complete eight-module course, all workbooks and resources, the 10-week roadmap, four live facilitated calls, recordings, question submission, the private WhatsApp cohort and my support throughout the program.
In return, I’ll ask you for honest feedback a few times over the 10 weeks.
What helped?
What didn’t?
What felt overwhelming?
What was missing?
What made something finally click?
You do not owe me a glowing testimonial. You owe me honest feedback. That’s the deal.
Founding Beta Cohort
November 2026 – January 2027
Future Guided price: A$599
A$297
Frequently asked questions:
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No. This is specifically for women who are still considering solo motherhood.
You might be almost certain and trying to work through the last few fears, or you might genuinely have no idea whether you want to do it.
You are not expected to know before you join.
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There isn’t a checklist that can make that decision for you.
What you can do is properly explore the things that usually influence it — how strongly you want motherhood, fertility and timing, donor conception, finances, support, practical life, your values and what this could mean for your future child.
That is exactly what Considering Solo Motherhood is designed to help you do.
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Then you have made a decision.
That is a successful outcome.
I would much rather you spend 10 weeks properly exploring it and decide no than push forward because everybody around you assumed yes was the goal.
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Then your answer may be not yet.
The difference is that “not yet” will have a reason and a plan attached to it.
You might decide to gather more information, work on your finances, keep dating for a period of time, investigate fertility preservation or simply set a date when you’ll revisit the decision.
Not yet is very different from endlessly avoiding the question.
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The program does not ask you to put your fertility on hold while you think.
Understanding your fertility and timeline is part of the course, and you may decide to speak with your GP or a fertility specialist while you are still exploring whether solo motherhood is right for you.
Making a thoughtful decision and gathering useful fertility information can happen at the same time.
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That’s okay.
All calls are recorded and you can submit questions beforehand.
You also have the private WhatsApp group throughout the 10 weeks.
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No.
It is preferred as it’s easier to connect with the other women, but I know some women in this program may not have told anybody they are considering solo motherhood and may be very nervous and I would hate the need to be on camera to be the reason you aren’t getting the support you need to make this decision.
You can keep your camera off and participate at whatever level feels comfortable.
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No.
It is there because connecting with women at exactly the same stage can be incredibly useful, but you do not need to share personal information or be chatting every day.
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The course was created in Australia and some information around fertility clinics, costs, donor arrangements and support systems has an Australian focus.
A large part of the course — including donor-conception considerations, emotional readiness, support networks, planning and the decision itself — is relevant much more broadly.
Women outside Australia are welcome, but you’ll need to check local laws, healthcare systems and treatment costs where they differ.
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Yes.
Calls will run in Australian evening times, so they will be later in New Zealand. Every session is recorded and you can submit questions beforehand.
As the program grows, I’ll use participant feedback to decide whether separate time-zone sessions are needed.
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There is no prize for watching 100% of the videos.
The Guided roadmap will show you what I recommend focusing on during each part of the 10 weeks. Everything else remains there as a resource when it becomes relevant.
The goal is to make a decision, not earn a course-completion badge.
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On Demand gives you the complete course, all exercises and resources and lifetime access to work through everything privately and at your own pace.
Guided gives you all of that plus the 10-week roadmap, four live facilitated calls, recordings, question submission and the private cohort WhatsApp group.
From February, On Demand will be A$297 and Guided A$599.
For the founding beta, Guided is also A$297.
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Because this is the first time I’m running the course in this new 10-week Guided format.
You get the complete experience, but I’ll ask you for honest feedback throughout so that I can refine the program before the February cohort.
A quick note before you join
Because your purchase gives you immediate access to the complete digital course and resources, change-of-mind refunds are not available once access has been provided.
This does not affect any rights you may have under Australian Consumer Law.
You don’t have to decide today.
But maybe you’re ready to stop pushing the question away.
You can keep opening another tab, listening to another podcast and waiting for the magical moment where you suddenly feel 100% certain.
Or you can give yourself 10 weeks to properly understand what solo motherhood could mean for you, what you’re actually afraid of, what you still need to know and what you want to do next.
Maybe that next step is treatment.
Maybe it’s more time.
Maybe it’s closing this particular door.
Whatever your answer is, I want it to feel like your decision.
Considering Solo Motherhood
Guided Founding Beta | November 2026 – January 2027
A$297
Future guided cohorts A$599
Prefer to work through it privately? Explore On Demand →