Solo Mum Society Membership
You did something incredible. Now let's build the village to match.
You may already know there are thousands of other Solo Mums by Choice out there, but knowing they exist is very different from actually having a few in your life who know your child’s name, understand the logistics of parenting alone, and don’t need the backstory before they understand what you mean.
That kind of community can be surprisingly difficult to build. Meetups clash with naps or bedtime. Your child spends the whole time attached to you or running in the opposite direction. You live regionally. You’re introverted. Or you simply don’t have the time or energy to keep putting yourself out there and hoping a friendship grows from one random interaction.
Solo Mum Society exists to make that easier.
It’s a private membership for Solo Mums by Choice across Australia and New Zealand, created to help you build genuine friendships, connect with women living the same kind of family life, and access practical support for the parts of motherhood that are easier when you don’t have to figure them out alone.
The Facebook group helps you get answers. Solo Mum Society helps you get to know people.
FOUNDATION MEMBERSHIP - $29.99/month
13 of 50 Foundation Memberships claimed
Foundation Membership is limited to the first 50 places. Once those places are filled, standard membership will be $49.99/month or $490/year.
Applications reviewed within 72 hours · Foundation rate locked while your membership remains active
Maybe you’ve been looking for this without quite knowing what you were looking for
You might already have wonderful friends and still feel like there are parts of your life they simply can’t fully relate to. Their households may include partners, shared income, someone else available for pickup, another adult to tag in at the end of the day, or a completely different set of decisions about family life.
You might see photos of solo mums meeting up, going away together or watching their kids grow up alongside one another and think, I’d love that, but have no idea how people actually get from following each other online to real friendship.
Or maybe you’re perfectly capable of doing life on your own, but you’d still like your child to know other families like theirs and have a few women around you who understand this life without needing it explained.
That is the gap Solo Mum Society is designed to fill.
The kind of connection that can actually become friendship
The free Facebook group is great for questions. You can ask about donors, treatment, Centrelink, schools or something your child has said, and usually someone has been there before.
What it isn’t designed for is repeated connection.
Friendship usually grows because you see the same people more than once. You remember what they told you last time. You start recognising their kids. You follow up on the thing they were worried about. Eventually someone says, “Want to grab coffee?” or “We’re going to the park on Saturday if you want to come.”
Solo Mum Society creates more opportunities for that repetition to happen.
Our members connect through the private Circle community, specialist and state-based spaces, and regular Zoom connection calls where the group breaks into smaller conversations rather than trying to talk over one huge room.
The first call confirmed exactly why I wanted to create this.
“Being able to connect with other mums who just get it, without even leaving the house, was honestly so nice. I didn’t expect to feel that connected after just one Zoom. It made me realise how much something like this is needed.”
Another member told me:
“I shared a bit about how I’ve been feeling and it was the best medicine to hear that they both felt the same. I’m so glad I joined and can have a dose of connection and fill my cup up every few weeks.”
And another:
“I left feeling uplifted, hopeful and excited for what’s ahead thanks to the wisdom of mums who’ve been there before.”
That is what I want Solo Mum Society to become: not another group you joined, but a place where names become familiar and familiar names can eventually become real friendships.
Why I built it
Some of the greatest friendships in my own life came from becoming a solo mum.
Our kids have grown up together. We’ve done playdates, BBQs, camping trips, holidays and Bali. My daughter knows families that look like ours, and I have women around me who understand this life without me having to explain all the context first.
But those friendships didn’t happen automatically just because we were all solo mums.
Someone had to organise the first meetup. Someone had to start the group chat. Someone had to put the invitation out there, keep inviting people and create enough opportunities for people to see each other again.
For years, that person has often been me.
Solo Mum Society is my way of making that process easier for you, without expecting you to spend years building it from scratch.
Alisha x
What’s actually inside
Fortnightly connection calls
Every second Monday, members can join a relaxed Zoom call and spend time actually talking to other solo mums from home.
The calls use smaller breakout rooms so conversations feel natural. As the membership grows, groups can be mixed in different ways — by children’s ages, state, shared interests or completely randomly so you meet someone new.
They aren’t compulsory, and they aren’t formal networking events. Come in your pyjamas. Come without makeup. If your child appears, nobody is remotely surprised.
The point is simply to make regular connection easier.
Your private Circle community
Circle is our dedicated member platform, so the community isn’t buried in a Facebook feed or filled with anonymous posts and nicknames.
There’s a main community for everyday conversation, as well as specialist spaces for women who share another part of the experience. These currently include areas for neurodivergent mums, older mums, mums parenting children with additional needs, and mums who don’t have their own mum around.
Monthly expert sessions
Solo motherhood brings plenty of questions that have nothing to do with fertility treatment.
Buying property on one income. Wills and guardianship. Online safety. Body safety. Returning to work. Identity after motherhood. Expanding your family. Managing practical decisions when there isn’t another parent in the household.
Each month, Solo Mum Society brings in an expert to cover one of those areas, with members able to join live or watch later.
These sessions can also be purchased individually by non-members, but they are included as part of membership.
Your expert library
Membership gives you access to the complete back catalogue of previous expert sessions from the moment you join.
That means you don’t need to wait for a topic to come around again. If something becomes relevant to your family now, you can go straight to the session you need.
The library already includes sessions on wills and guardianship, body safety, online safety, employment rights, matrescence and identity, and considerations when expanding your family, with more added over time.
Member benefits that grow with the community
Members also receive access to selected partner offers and benefits, with more member-only opportunities, event advantages and extras added as Solo Mum Society grows.
Those benefits are useful, but they aren’t the reason I created the membership.
The people are.
This is about more than “having friends”
For some women, the biggest benefit will be having people to talk to who understand solo motherhood.
For others, it may become much more practical.
Who do you put down as your emergency contact when family isn’t nearby? Who might be able to collect your child if you were suddenly stuck? Who understands why a school event, Father’s Day or a question about donors has landed differently this week? Who can recommend something without starting with, “Can’t your partner just…?”
A village doesn’t appear overnight, and joining a membership doesn’t magically create an emergency contact.
But relationships are how that kind of trust begins.
State-based connection
State-based spaces open once there are enough members in that area to make them useful. I deliberately don’t open empty state groups simply for the sake of saying they exist. Once five members from a state have joined, that local space opens and can start becoming a pathway to real-life connection.
That creates the pathway from: “I know another solo mum online…” to: “Want to grab coffee?”
Real friendships
I don’t want the success of Solo Mum Society to be measured by how much time everyone spends online.
The real win is when someone finds another mum nearby. When kids start recognising each other. When a Zoom conversation becomes coffee, then a playdate, then a friendship. When a regional mum discovers someone else within driving distance. When a child grows up knowing other families that look like theirs.
The online community is simply the easiest place to begin.
You can use the membership in a way that works for your life
This is not another thing you have to keep up with.
Some members will join most connection calls and be active in Circle regularly. Others may dip in and out depending on what is happening in their lives. Some will love live expert sessions; others will almost always watch recordings.
There is no attendance requirement and no expectation that you prove you are “active enough” to belong.
The community is there when you want connection, support, practical information or simply a room full of people who understand the family structure you are living.
Is this for you?
Who Solo Mum Society is for
Solo Mum Society is specifically for Solo Mums by Choice who are already parenting children conceived intentionally through donor conception and who live in Australia or New Zealand.
It may be a particularly good fit if you want to widen your solo-mum circle, would love your child to know more families like theirs, have struggled to make regular meetups work, live somewhere without a large established solo-mum network, or simply want access to a broader community than the one you currently have.
You do not need to be lonely to join, and you do not need to have no solo-mum friends.
You might already have some wonderful people around you and still want more women at your child’s stage, mums who live closer, people who share another part of your experience, or simply a larger community around your family.
Who it isn’t for
If you are still considering solo motherhood, trying to conceive or currently pregnant, this membership is not yet designed for your stage.
Women who are TTC or pregnant are better supported inside The Bump, where the community and resources are focused on becoming a Solo Mum by Choice rather than parenting once your child is here.
Solo Mum Society is also not intended for women raising children alone following separation, divorce or the death of another parent. Those experiences come with their own very real challenges around custody, co-parenting, child support and grief, which this community is not designed to support.
For now, membership is limited to Australia and New Zealand so there is a genuine possibility of members eventually connecting locally as well as online.
Every application is read and reviewed by me personally — not automatically approved by a bot or a set of rules. That's slower than an instant sign-up, but it's the only way this stays a space where everyone in it genuinely gets each other. At this stage, connection calls run on Australian time zones to start, growing to include NZ-friendly times as the community grows.
Not sure you fit? Apply anyway and say so — I'd rather have a quick honest conversation than have you guess.
Your exclusive foundation member offer
Everything above — fortnightly calls, the full community, monthly expert sessions, the entire back-catalogue, growing partner offers, and your path to real friendships. All optional, all yours, none of it going anywhere.
FOUNDATION MEMBERSHIP
AVAILABLE FOR THE FIRST 50 MEMBERS
$29.99/month
Locked for life, from the day you're approved.
Once sold out, membership reverts to $49.99/month. Apply now to secure one of the Foundation Memberships, and you'll never pay more than $29.99 per month.
Applications reviewed within 72 hours · Cancel any time
STANDARD MEMBERSHIP
$49.99/month
Available once all Foundation Memberships are claimed.
Applications reviewed within 72 hours · Cancel any time · Your $29.99 Foundation rate remains locked for as long as your membership stays active.
Frequently Asked Questions
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The two spaces have different jobs.
The Facebook group is excellent for broad discussion, asking questions and getting advice from a large community.
Solo Mum Society is deliberately smaller and structured around repeated connection. Members use real names, see the same women in calls and discussions, and have more opportunities to move from “we’re in the same group” to actually knowing one another.
You can absolutely use both.
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Calls are fortnightly, not weekly, and the monthly expert sessions are recorded if you can't make it live. It's there when you want it, not a commitment to keep up with.
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Not even close. Come to as many connection calls as you like, catch expert sessions live or via recording, and dip into the community whenever suits you.
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State groups open once five members from that state have joined, because an empty local group isn’t useful.
Until then, you still have access to the full national community, specialist spaces and connection calls. Once the membership in your state reaches that threshold, your local space opens.
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Yes, to start. Calls run on Australian time zones initially, growing to include dedicated New Zealand-friendly times.
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We read every application personally. You'll hear back within 72 hours — if approved, your welcome email covers reviewing our guidelines, payment, member site login, and your Circle invite.
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Circle is the private platform we use for the membership. It combines many of the useful parts of a Facebook group, group chat and forum in one place, with community discussions, events, direct messages and specialist spaces.
It can be accessed through an app or web browser.
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No.
Connection Calls are one way to use the membership, not an attendance requirement.
If joining a call feels intimidating initially, you can start by getting to know people inside Circle and join a call when you feel ready.
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Possibly — but not necessarily.
If you already have a strong community and feel completely connected, you may not need the membership.
If you would like to widen your circle, meet mums with children at a similar stage, connect with people closer to where you live or find women who share another part of your experience, there may still be plenty of value for you.
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No. Expert sessions are recorded and added to the member library, so you can watch them whenever the topic becomes relevant to you.
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Of course.
The calls are designed around real solo-mum life. If bedtime falls apart, somebody wakes up, or a child wanders into view, nobody is going to think twice.
You built your family on your own terms. You don’t have to build the village by accident.
Solo Mum Society is about creating more opportunities for the relationships that make this life richer — for you and for your children.
Not another group to keep up with.
A place to find people you might actually come to know.
$29.99/month, locked while your membership remains active · Offer closes 30 September 2026 or when all 50 Foundation Memberships are claimed · Applications reviewed within 72 hours