Solo Mum Society Membership
You did something incredible. Now let's build the village to match.
Solo Mum Society Membership is the community for Solo Mums by Choice across Australia and New Zealand — real connection calls, a real community (not a Facebook group), expert sessions for every part of your life, and friendships that go the distance.
Quick check before scrolling - this is built specifically for you if:
You’re already a mum, via donor conception, on your own
You’re in Australia or New Zealand
You want real friendships, not just somewhere to ask questions
(Not quite sure if this is you? Full detail on who this is - and isn’t - for is further down the page)
Applications reviewed within 72 hours · Foundation rate locked for life
You went against everything you were told a family was supposed to look like.
And you were right to.
You made an intentional choice most people around you have never had to make — and went and did it anyway. You're raising your kids, running your household, building a whole life, entirely on your terms.
You're also more than a solo mum by choice. You're a woman with a career, a home, opinions, a body that's changed, a version of yourself you're still figuring out — and it's easy to lose bits of that along the way. This is about bringing that back too.
You've probably already tried to build this yourself.
The Facebook group
Great for chat about donors, treatment, Centrelink. Not built for real friendship.
The Instagram DMs
You found someone who got it — then life happened, and it faded.
Meeting people locally
Nap schedules, toddlers who run, and nobody leaves the house after 7pm..
Here's what actually works instead: a community where the woman replying to your 11pm message gets it, because she's up too. A group chat for your state that turns into "want to get the kids together Saturday?" And when something genuinely throws you, a whole community of women who either say "we went through that too," or put themselves in your shoes to help you brainstorm what's next
Why I built this
Becoming a solo mum is the best decision I ever made — and the women I've met because of it have been one of the biggest blessings alongside my daughter. Those friendships didn't happen by accident. It took real, deliberate effort — meetups, three Bali trips (already planning the next one), Facebook groups, Instagram, The Bump, Butterfly Blueprint, challenges, book club. Someone always has to put it out there first. For years, that's been me.
If you've been part of The Bump, Butterfly Blueprint, or followed along with me for a while, you already know what happens when this kind of community gets a real structure to grow in. I want to give you all of that, without the years it took me to build it.
— Alisha
What’s actually inside
Fortnightly connection calls
By state, by child's age, or "speed dating." A beautiful way to spend an evening getting to know other solo mums face to face, without leaving the house.
The SMS Community (via Circle)
Real names, not anonymous handles. General chat, state-based threads that get more local as membership grows, and specialist groups so you can actually find your people — whether that's other neurosparkly mums, double-donor families, or mums navigating motherhood without their own mum around.
Monthly expert sessions
Psychologists, mortgage brokers, nutritionists, stylists, and more. Live or recorded, always your choice. Sold separately at $29 — included free
The full expert back-catalogue
Sort your peace of mind with our Wills and Guardianship session; learn how to talk to your children about body safety or keep them safe online; navigate returning to work; explore considerations for Expanding Your Family, and more — always available. At $29/session, the 7 sessions from 2025 alone = $200+ value — included free
Partner offers & benefits
An ever-evolving group of partner offers - not just to save money — to free up mental capacity, outsource, and give you back time.
A real pathway to in-person friendships
Groups get more local as membership grows, close enough to meet for coffee or a playdate. And it's not just for you: members' kids get to meet other kids from families that look like theirs. Having friends from other solo mum families helps normalise our families and helps our children build friendships with other children who may face similar challenges and experiences as they grow. For a lot of our members, that's turned out to matter as much as anything else on this list.
And many more things to come with time as the membership grows…
Show up when it suits you. It'll still be there.
Nothing here is compulsory. Come to every connection call, or dip in only when you want to — they're there either way. Catch every expert session live, or never once — the full back-catalogue is yours from day one, whenever you actually need it.
Some members will be in the community constantly. Others might go quiet for months, then show up the one week they really need it — like the week your child hits something your partnered friends can't relate to, and you need people who either say "we went through that too," or genuinely put themselves in your shoes to help you brainstorm what's next.
That's exactly what this is built for: real, practical advice from women who understand your specific family setup — not generic advice from just anyone.
Is this you?
This is for you if:
You're a Solo Mum by Choice, already raising a child (or children) created intentionally via donor conception, in Australia or New Zealand
You want real friendships, not just somewhere to ask questions
You want support that goes beyond "solo mum" topics — for you as the mother, and everything else you are too
This isn’t for you if:
You’re still trying to conceive or currently pregnant. Instead, you'll love The Bump, the community specifically for women on the journey to becoming a solo mum by choice.
You have a child you are raising on your own, but you didn’t intentionally conceive them on your own using a donor. There are unique challenges to this path that other solo/single mums can’t relate to, just as this community can’t support you on issues of child support, custody, or helping children and mothers navigate the grief of losing the other parent.
You aren’t in Australia or New Zealand. to give every member the best real chance of meeting locally and building genuine connection, this is limited to solo mums by choice in these two countries for now.
Every application is read and reviewed by me, personally — not a bot, not a rule. That's slower than an instant sign-up, but it's the only way this stays a space where everyone in it genuinely gets each other. At this stage, connection calls run on Australian time zones to start, growing to include NZ-friendly times as the community grows.
Not sure you fit? Apply anyway and say so — I'd rather have a quick honest conversation than have you guess.
Your exclusive foundation member offer
Everything above — fortnightly calls, the full community, monthly expert sessions, the entire back-catalogue, growing partner offers, and your path to real friendships. All optional, all yours, none of it going anywhere.
FOUNDATION MEMBERSHIP
AVAILABLE FOR THE FIRST 50 MEMBERS
$29.99/month
Locked for life, from the day you're approved.
Once sold out, membership reverts to $49.99/month. Apply now to secure one of the Foundation Memberships, and you'll never pay more than $29.99 per month.
Applications reviewed within 72 hours · Cancel any time
PUBLIC MEMBERSHIP
$49.99/month
What everyone else pays once launched.
Applications reviewed within 72 hours · Cancel any time · Your rate is only locked while you're an active member
Frequently Asked Questions
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The Facebook group is great for quick answers on donors, clinics and the practical stuff. This is about actually living this life — real names, live calls, and a structure built to turn "we're in the same group" into "we're friends."
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Calls are fortnightly, not weekly, and the monthly expert sessions are recorded if you can't make it live. It's there when you want it, not a commitment to keep up with.
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Not even close. Come to as many connection calls as you like, catch expert sessions live or via recording, and dip into the community whenever suits you.
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You'll be one of the founding voices in your state's group — shaping it as it forms, instead of joining an established group later.
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Yes, to start. Calls run on Australian time zones initially, growing to include dedicated New Zealand-friendly times.
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We read every application personally. You'll hear back within 72 hours — if approved, your welcome email covers reviewing our guidelines, payment, member site login, and your Circle invite.
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Circle is a combination of the best parts of a Facebook group, WhatsApp chat and old-school forum. No one is hiding behind nicknames or anonymous posting. This platform has general chat, events, private messages and subgrops based on geography or special interests to build real world connections.
You've already done the incredible part.
You built a life on your own terms, against everything you were told families were supposed to look like. Now it's time to build the village to match — surrounded by women just as capable, just as intentional, and just as ready to celebrate you as you are them.
$29.99/month, locked for life · Offer closes 30th September 2026 or when all 50 Foundation Memberships are sold · Applications reviewed within 72 hours