S4:E15 - Coby & Aubrey

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Written By Alisha Burns

From Egg Freezing to Solo Mum: Coby on Known Donors, Ectopic Loss, and the Joy of Baby Aubrey

Coby shares her honest journey from music gigs to motherhood—including egg freezing, loss, and the love that made it all worth it.

In this heartfelt episode, Coby shares how she transitioned from life as a globe-trotting musician to solo motherhood in Perth—with every step driven by love, strategy, and gut instinct.

She opens up about egg freezing at 35, losing a fallopian tube after an ectopic pregnancy, and ultimately conceiving her son Aubrey via IVF with a known donor—her best friend’s brother.

This is a story about grief, resilience, and creating a life that looks different than expected but turns out to be better than imagined.

Key Highlights:

  • Choosing a Known Donor – Why Coby said no to co-parenting and yes to clarity, boundaries, and a clinic pathway.

  • From Ectopic Loss to IVF Success – How she rebuilt hope after losing her first pregnancy and a fallopian tube.

  • Letting Go of the Fairy Tale – The emotional shift from dating to doing it alone—and how romantic love became secondary.

  • The Power of Planning – Financial preparation, family support, and a day job helped her build a stable life for motherhood.

  • Unconditional Love and Zero Regrets – Why baby Aubrey changed everything—and why she wouldn’t change a thing.

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